Yesterday I decided to get my haircut. A rather uneventful and mundane task usually. My hair was getting rather long (ok, my version of long which is most peoples’ version of short). When I arrived at SportsClips (their MVP is amazing, you should try it sometime) there was an hour and a half wait. I should have left. I did not. I was really looking forward to my haircut. Besides the haircut, it taught me a valuable lesson: It’s not your problem, it’s your attitude about your problem.
There was a man who had waited and apparently he had a “very important place to be” and he let everyone know it. He huffed and puffed about it. He complained and sighed very loudly. He swore under his breath so that I could hear it but the stylists could not. Not long after all the blustering, he belligerently asked the stylist, “what’s the point of calling ahead if I still have to wait?” The stylist calmly replied that the people ahead of him were there before he called.
After all this, he was finally next. The stylist called him up and sat him in her chair. She asked him what he would like. He rudely responded, “just cut my hair like I had it before.” She cut his hair. It turned out like he wanted. The entire time he was frowning and pissed off.
It Was Probably Not Important
I wonder though how much of that was the stylist’s fault and how much of it was his? The man was not forced to be there, his hair was not that long. If the place he had to be was so important, why was he getting a haircut at that moment? If it was so important, why did he wait until the last-minute to get his haircut? I do not know the answer to these questions.
Here’s what I do know, he waited anyway! He was miserable the whole time. He made a choice to be there, he also made a choice to make himself miserable (and everyone else there too).
Stop Being Miserable and Address the Real Problem
He had a problem, he had an appointment he needed to get to but instead of addressing the problem by leaving he stayed and made himself miserable. It was not the problem, it was his attitude about the problem. He could have waited and enjoyed the NFL preseason coverage but instead, he did not.
Final Thoughts About Your Problem
We all have problems. No one, regardless of how successful is immune. In the end, you can be happy or miserable while you fix your problems but either way you are going to endure them. The man getting his haircut was only causing himself unnecessary angst. That negative energy could have been used to find a solution. Next time you find yourself struggling with a problem, ask yourself “is it my problem, or my attitude about my problem?”